Don’t quit

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“I quit.”

Two words that have been popping up in my head about once a week for as long as I can remember.

When I got my disease arthritic rheumatism.

When I was too sick to walk up the stairs to get my kids from kindergarten.

When I had to move because of work.

When you seem to struggle with everything, when the weights aren’t coming up as easily, when you’re trying so hard but feel like getting nowhere.

Dead end jobs, uncontrolled emotions, relationships, behavior. We’ve all been there.

Things can get tough. The idea of just retreating within ourself can be tempting.

Years back, I thought of quitting everything. I had no connection with my higher self, no perspectives and no feeling of self-worth.

The life I wanted to build had started to feel like a far-fetched dream I could never turn into reality. At times, I just wanted to leave it all behind.

But the I realized:
“I’m on the bottom right now, I cannot go anywhere but up.”

I used the bottom to bounce back up again.

life doesn’t happen in linear ways. Life is a rollercoaster but somehow we stumble in the right direction.

I didn’t quit my life.

Instead, I quit toxic friends, bad habits and negative thinking.

Persistence is about imagining the light at the end of the tunnel when everything is pitch black. Sometimes it takes quitting what is holding you back to see it.

It’s okay to feel like you want to quit.

If you never feel like quitting, your life is too easy.

How are you feeling today?

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We are not our feelings but we are ruled by them.
Feelings are a very “charged subject”. Many people have a very hard time to talk about their own feelings and emotions. It’s easier to say that everything is ok. This goes especially for feelings such as anger, jealousy, depression and anxiety. Those feelings relate to shame and weakness.

We have 9 ground-feelings:
• Joy
• Interest
• Curiousness
• Fear
• Anger
• Sadness
• Abhorrence
• Disgust
• Shame/guilt

These feelings are congenital and not learnt. They are with us even at and infancy are the same for all cultures. Other remaining feelings are learnt and made of the ground-feelings.
We are raised to express feelings as happiness and joy. But often we have other feelings too. Because many people don’t show or talk about negative feelings, we think we’re alone in this. But I can promise you that everyone on this earth have the same feelings you do.
One reason, that people don’t talk about feelings other than happiness is, that they are so afraid of being rejected and end up alone. But when you start to show your feelings and talk about them you automatically get better relations. Your emotions make you beautiful and alive. When you’re open and honest people begin to trust you. And you make them feel safe, to show and talk about their emotions.
Showing emotions makes you grow as a person. It helps you understand yourself and makes it easier for you to find out what you want and make decisions.

What makes you happy or sad? Learn to know yourself now. At the end of the day you feel happier. You are greeted with empathy, recognition and sympathy.
You are going to feel a communion and solidarity upon confirmation.
It makes you feel less alone.

Dare to say “I am not perfect and I do not demand perfection from others either”.
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself 

Be yourself

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You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. You are unique. You have different talents and abilities. You don’t have to always follow in the footsteps of others. And most important, you should always remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing and have a responsibility to develop the talents you have been given.

Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look.

Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching.

March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.

Don’t compromise yourself – you’re all you have.

Be yourself everyone else is already taken!